ALONE: A Boon Or A Curse
It’s not much to hide, but the word “alone” makes different people feel different things.
Depending on where you are right now, you can say it’s a 6 or a 9. A little bit of change is always helpful, but giving up your own beliefs to help someone else is just too hard. Having to fight with the ego all the time is hard on the person. Also, it can become a habit that is hard to break. As time goes on and you gain more life experience, it gets harder and harder to agree with what other people say. Nonetheless, it’s my perspective; I do know you have your own.
ALONE: A Curse
I meet new people from different backgrounds every day, and most of them complain about life itself. Most of the time, I ask, “How is life treating you?” And almost all the time, the answer seems to be, “It’s hard, I don’t know what to do with life.”
They talk about trying so many different things in their lives, but the problem is that most of them only do things in their heads. The unmet desire to do something important. It’s not that I am untouched by that thing, I am struggling as well.
As time goes on into the future, it gets harder. Once there were kids in the house, a good, occupied family started to feel empty. Your own kids, who you’ve lived with for 20 years or more, are all of a sudden gone. Some get married and start their own families, while others leave the country. The point is that the family, which used to be bustling with life, is now quiet.
As you move forward in time, you start to wonder who is going to die soon. You or your partner? People don’t like to talk about death because they are scared. However, it’s a fact that we die and that all living things die as the hourglass of life empties.
If you’re the lucky one, you’ll get to go on first, but what happens if you’re the latter one? Now the vacuum made by missing your kids is getting bigger. The person you’ve shared your life with and told your story to, and with whom you had a child, isn’t there.
This is what it feels like to be mega-empty. Nietzsche was right when he said that when you look into the abyss, it starts to look back at you. The look is so deep that if you don’t understand it, you might start to go crazy. Now that you have no one to talk to, what good is your life? Plus, your physical activities get worse. You can’t eat well, and you can’t even shit well.
When you are alone in a room, the empty space is scary. Another saying comes into play: “A mind at rest is the devil’s workshop.” You don’t trust anyone anymore, you live in the past, and you can’t even hold a cup right, so the future is just a dream. You are stuck in a room in the past while the outside world moves so fast that you hate the change because you haven’t changed. How can you change when everything is getting weaker? Your bones are breaking in many places, you can’t see well, and you can’t think of anything new.
The only change you want is to be free of your body, but no one can make that happen; the time has to be right.
You are so engrossed in the thought that you start to say
“Being alone is a curse.”
ALONE: A BOON
The fact about curse can be most for most of us, but only if we don’t find what we really love to do.
If you are a seeker and a person who tries, I don’t mean that you take drugs that make you feel good. I mean that you do small things that make you happy and don’t hurt you in the long run. The things that matter are how hard you try over and over again. It’s mostly a feeling, whether you win or lose, but the catch is: do you agree?
I’ve read a lot of stories, novels, and short stories. I’ve also read about how people made a change, from rocket propulsion to a cure for a virus infection. I focus on how a person has changed things. It’s always about a single person. The idea that turned into things came from one person.
Extraordinary fleets achieved by a person came out of being alone.
Every person with a skill we admire or whose story inspires us had to deal with the horror of being alone. Then things make sense, and that person can stand tall and look at being alone. All kinds of things can be made out of nothing, as in nothing at all. When you’re alone, you come up with ideas, make links, and figure out what to do and what went wrong. You also make all the small calculations.
When you’ve made your mark, you’re not known by the people around you but by what you’ve made, whether it’s a thought, art, music, or anything else.
Being alone doesn’t really stop anything, rather it can help you see your thing. You can say you had a planning session with peers, but that action is only made if someone calms down enough to see the bright side. Ideas can be taken from anyone or anything but only a single mind gets into action.
Normal people can’t handle being by themselves, but almost all scientists and writers do their work when they are by themselves. That’s where they really grow and bloom. No nagging from anyone, and they keep doing what they love, like exploring the ideas in their minds.
I’ve talked about how life gets emptier as time goes on. When a person tries a lot of different things, he often finds things that he can do perfectly(almost) when he is by himself.
Finding what you love is like finding the best friend who would never, ever, ever leave you.
You have found your best friend, who is practically you. You hang out with your best friend and keep trying new things without thinking about the vacuum your kids or even your spouse left behind. You can feel the emptiness, but there’s no need to worry because you’ve found your thing.
Knowledge is adding and wisdom, subtracting. Why should you try a lot of different things? Well, to find the one and forget about the rest. That one thing is the only thing that will keep you sane.
Every single one of us is fighting against our own thoughts here. We’re so afraid of being alone that even when we’re in our room by ourselves, we want music playing in the background.
Only those who found alone as their best friend can make a difference otherwise, he would be swayed by the storms of thought that buzzed within the vacuum of being alone.
Let me recall Nietzsche here once again to wrap things up, “When you stare at the abyss, the abyss would stare back at you.”
When the abyss is overwhelming, being alone would be a curse and if you overcome the abyss; it would be a boon.
FOOTNOTE
And if you want to read more of my random thoughts you can check:
Perspectives 36⁰⁰
Awaiting For A Savior
Passion Hunt, Haunted
Supplementary Vibes, or?
Attention Span
I Give You, Metamorphosis
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